Greatest Love of All
As a therapist I've spent years talking to clients about the power of positive self-talk and I'm often met with rolled eyes, dismissive laughs, and sometimes flat out "nah." I understand, so often feels it feels automatic for us to become negative in the way in which we speak to ourselves; especially in those times when we believe we have fallen short or when we step into new situations.
"I can't believe I made that mistake! My co-workers are going to think I'm incompetent."
"These moms have it all together and I look like a mess."
"I should just give up now."
The above are all examples of negative self-talk, which not only feels automatic, but it also feels comfortable for a lot of us. This is often due to our childhood experiences or significant relationships in our lives. That's the resistance I often encounter; bumping up against life experiences. Just the idea of speaking to ourselves in a caring, kind way feels uncomfortable.
I've found that the introduction of science, something tangible, helps people sit with that idea of being uncomfortable. That's where the concept of neuroplasticity because a powerful tool in my therapist toolbox. Neuroplasticity is the brain's ability to form and and reorganize synaptic connections, especially in response to learning or experiencing or following injury. Plainly put, we can start to create new, powerful neural pathways (connections) when we incorporate positive self-talk into our daily lives. These positive pathways become deeper over time and start to replace the negative pathways that were created by our various negative experiences. When it becomes a consistent practice we start to notice new automatic self-talk that is spoken in a kind voice. We also start to see a shift in how we view the world and even how we walk in the world.
With just four steps you can start to cultivate your own positive self-talk rituals and experience first hand the science of neuroplasticity and impact of speaking to yourself with kindness. Enter your email to recieve a guide on incorporating positive self-talk into your daily routine.
Uponyaji - means healing in Swahili